Looks like you're on the opposite coast but if you happen to be near San Francisco , please hit me up. I'm a good cook and you could crash out at my pad for a couple days.
Originally Posted by RobBlake:
my wife left me via text message so I understand your gut wrenching pain Beach. It doesn't heal quick enough, but if you allow yourself to focus on making a better you, there WILL be other people *if you allow* to help fill that void. They will never completely fill that void until YOU are ready to fill it and that is OK. it is OK to NOT be okay.. but understand that the more you allow yourself to be dragged down by the hurt, that it could have some devastating effects on your life in all aspects. Be strong.
Sorry to see this. I don't have any words/experiences to share other than that. You do have to be strong for your kid though. But you know that. [Reply]
Cheaters typically don't stop cheating. They are trying to fill a hole in themselves that can't be filled because they are broken. Had a chick cheat on me once. She married that dude, then cheated on him with me (once, would have been more but I turned it down), and she was screwing around with other dudes as well.
Keep your head up, and take care of your kids. Deal with her fairly, and look out for yourself. [Reply]
Damn bro, that's a hard issue to deal with. Not much hurts like heartbreak. Not the same situation, but when I lost my son I was very overcome with the craziest emotions and thoughts of revenge (although clearly you aren't having these thoughts). I was literally seconds from jumping out of my car and trying to kill someone who was somewhat involved. Luckily my oldest daughter was with me. She was able to stop me, mostly because I didn't want to put my 2 daughters through another loss. Kids can be the glue that holds your inner self together, and even sometimes your marriage/relationship. Doesn't sound like your gonna do anything violent, which is good as your child needs you, and your strong enough to understand that you must do the right thing for the child. Keep your head up my brotha, and try to keep moving in a positive direction. You will rise above this and be a better person because of it. Nobody gets out of here without pain, and everyone hits the bottom. It's the choices you make after you hit the bottom that will define you. You're a strong person, and will make it through this.
Also I'm prob only 3 hours away from you. If you need someone to talk to, or a place to getaway you and your child are welcome here. We have an extra bedroom, so it would be no problem. Stay strong my friend and please don't hesitate to contact me. I can give you my number or address if needed.
