Some people are jocks. Some people are preps. Some people are sluts. Some people are popular. Some people are all of the above, or a combination of one or more.
Some people are nerds.
I am a nerd.
Nerds don't go to parties. Those other people do.
I'm not those other people. I don't do what they do.
After covering my basketball games (which put the evening at 7pm) I went to the library and got on the computer until it closed at 8. Then I went to a mexican restaurant and ate dinner. It was then 9 pm. I was led to believe the party was starting at 9:30 or 10 pm. I drove over to her house and parked in a nearby lot. I waited. I felt sick. I went to the university center, and looked in the mirror. I looked like a nerd. I went back to the parking lot, ended up circling the house five times and parking again each time.
The last attempt I actually got out of the car. Guys I was so scared my entire body was screaming for me to get back in the car where it was safe. I got in there and left, and tried not to turn my head to look at that apartment building and the people outside it as I passed it.
Two songs played in the car as I began that trip home. Joe Walsh's "Life's been good to me" and AC/DC's "Hell's Bell's." Those are two of my favorite songs, and they are never played on the radio.
Those were my mp3s, calling me home.
I had a good cry on the way home, but I'm here now, where I belong. With you guys, my geforce 4 and no one else.
Originally Posted by : Originally posted by htismaqe Dude, if you ever want to have girls interested in you, you need to stop thinking about Star Wars and your video card.
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GoChiefs, I've read through a little over half the posts. I think you are too hard on yourself. Dude, lighten up on yourself a bit. I really doubt you are such a nerd that people are lining up to make fun of you. I used to struggle just as you do. (Well, maybe not that much, but I can sympathize:-)) When I finally became content with who I was and quit trying to be what I thought everyone around me wanted me, a lot of these problems changed. Now, not everyone liked me, not everyone's going to, that's life. But I also started making some real freinds after that.
Really, it is no big deal to walk in, make an appearance, and after a couple of minutes, say goodbye to the hostess, tell her you have some stuff you gotta tend to but wanted to stop in for a moment, and head out. That way, she will remember that you are there. If you are afraid of acting stupid while there, definately don't drink - and you have a perfectly good excuse with having to drive an hour home. I would be suprised if you went to a large party and didn't find someone you had something in common with. Shoot, there may have been a serious gamer there that you could have talked sound cards with.
I have read a lot of your posts. You seem to be decent enough of a guy. Don't be so hard on yourself.
One of my favourite activities is socializing. That is what has opened so many doors for me. I'm blessed. I make small talk about all sorts of interesting topics. Additionally, I've grown older. There is no way I would remember shirt logo you speak of. I'm sorry.
I'm off.
I wish you the best. Take these gentlemen's advice. They are providing their assistance free of charge.
gochiefs, I hope you're appreciating all the terrific advice you're getting on this board, because we all very easily could be busting your balls over this. If a bunch of complete strangers with a penchant for smaque are willing to cut you some slack, why do you thinks folks who know you -- and invite you to their parties -- won't?
I didn't start socializing big time until I was a junior or senior in high school. I just started going to parties, would sit back with a friend or two, sometimes alone, with a beer and without fail somebody would come up and talk to me. Often it was a girl -- there are a lot of girls out there who are outgoing (and/or liquored up) and just like to talk to guys at parties. Doesn't mean you're going to get laid, but you gotta start somewhere.
When I hit college, I was a completely different person at 18 than I was at 16. College was awesome. I met a whole bunch of great people of all different backgrounds. I'd talk sports with guys who were jocks, or brains, or geeks. Didn't matter -- we had one thing in common. College wasn't clique-ish like high school. DO NOT WASTE WHAT'S LEFT OF YOUR COLLEGE DAYS. You will regret it for the rest of your life.
None of us end up like we thought we would. and not ONE of us hasn't felt like you did tonight at one time or another. It's safe not to take the risk and jump off the cliff and try new things. You'd might be surprised by the results, but will never know unless you go for it.
parties aren't a competiton, they are get togethers so you and everyone else dosen't have to hang out ALONE. [Reply]
Its gonna take a special kinda women to take her panties off in thar room. Maybe you should dress her in a white gown and velcro sticky buns to the sides of her head to stick with the theme. :-) [Reply]
Originally Posted by : Originally posted by stevieray "I can't be what I'm not..."
None of us end up like we thought we would. and not ONE of us hasn't felt like you did tonight at one time or another. It's safe not to take the risk and jump off the cliff and try new things. You'd might be surprised by the results, but will never know unless you go for it.
parties aren't a competiton, they are get togethers so you and everyone else dosen't have to hang out ALONE.
lol... stevie, I don't think I've ever seen you be that serious before. [Reply]
