Is online flirting, when you know your S.O. disapproves, OK because you "are only flirting online and not in the real world"?
My opinion (surprise, surprise) is that it's not OK, period. It's said to be OK because it's not face-to-face, and online it's just fun and games.
I call bullsh!t. People meet online friends in person all the time. They even meet their future spouses online. The "it's only online" argument is bogus.
I would also imagine that many of those who feel it's OK would be less than eager to have their own S.O.s discover their activity.
Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY:
I don't know what I'm talking about though just ask Clint. You will find him bitching on a sports BB about his wifes flirting behavior.
No matter how much a man loves his women he has to be ready to leave that relationship rather than lose control at any time if he wants it to be a good one. It's not like women I have been with over the years have not crossed the line. Instead of bitching about it to her and having a fight and acting all jealous thereby losing all power in the relationship I chose to go another direction, exactly the opposite of what you would expect. Without getting jealous at all I just told her I thought she should hook up with that guy. I told her how hot he was and said I would want to **** him if I was a woman and left it at that. I gotta tell you it worked wonderfully. "I love you. I want to be with you. Stop it that's not funny" type of reactions followed by the hug that announces to whoever the other guy is that she has no intention of wandering.
So, she fed you a line like, "I love you, I want to be with you" and you ate it up.
Originally Posted by ENDelt260:
Hey Big Daddy.... next time you pull that trick, can I be "that guy"? Y'know... just in case it doesn't go the way you expect.
Especially if he ad libs, and adds: "Yeah, you know what would be really hot right now? Why don't you drop to your knees and give him a blowjob right now. I'd consider it a parting gift." [Reply]
Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita:
Women (men too) who need a "chase" simply need to grow up.
BTW, I never did get your opinion on online flirting...
Online flirting, going in a club flirting whatever. I give lil momma a lot of slack. She can do what she wants within reason. Fortunately she likes women at least as much as men so she is usually flirting with them. I can do what I want though and do. It's worked for a long time but I have to admit it's not for everyone. Most people are not secure enough to be like that. [Reply]
This debate is too general imo. Maybe someone should start an official planet flirting thread.
That way, we can centralize all the Planet flirting into one thread and grade FPs (flirt posts) as "over the bounds", "innocent fun", "borderline internet fraud", etc.
I would start it, but my threads don't work out very well.
Originally Posted by FAX:
This debate is too general imo. Maybe someone should start an official planet flirting thread.
That way, we can centralize all the Planet flirting into one thread and grade FPs (flirt posts) as "over the bounds", "innocent fun", "borderline internet fraud", etc.
I would start it, but my threads don't work out very well.
Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita:
So, she fed you a line like, "I love you, I want to be with you" and you ate it up.
Who's the bitch again?
I let her have slack if I didn't she wouldn't do it. At the end of the night she is always coming home with me. If she cheats she's gone. It's real simple I don't feel the need to piss on my territory to mark it. She knows if if we break up it will take me no time to go out and get another woman who is hot and I will. She knows all my past girlfriends have been bi too so I will find another. I gotta tell you I feel more secure in our relationship than the great majority of people we know. I am WAY more secure in ours that you are in yours. Who's approach is working better? Call me a bitch all you want. [Reply]
It there a distinction between "Online Flirting" and "Online Sex?"
I think online flirting is pretty harmless in a relationship. Flirting is human nature. I think Online Sex is a different story... One that I don't think I completely understand. [Reply]
Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY:
I let her have slack if I didn't she wouldn't do it. At the end of the night she is always coming home with me. If she cheats she's gone. It's real simple I don't feel the need to piss on my territory to mark it. She knows if if we break up it will take me no time to go out and get another woman who is hot and I will. She knows all my past girlfriends have been bi too so I will find another. I gotta tell you I feel more secure in our relationship than the great majority of people we know. I am WAY more secure in ours that you are in yours. Who's approach is working better? Call me a bitch all you want.
Which brings us back to the original topic. What constitutes cheating in your book? [Reply]
Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY:
Online flirting, going in a club flirting whatever. I give lil momma a lot of slack. She can do what she wants within reason. Fortunately she likes women at least as much as men so she is usually flirting with them. I can do what I want though and do. It's worked for a long time but I have to admit it's not for everyone. Most people are not secure enough to be like that.
I don't get it... You're allowed to cheat on her, but she's not allowed to cheat on you? [Reply]
Originally Posted by Taco John:
It there a distinction between "Online Flirting" and "Online Sex?"
I think online flirting is pretty harmless in a relationship. Flirting is human nature. I think Online Sex is a different story... One that I don't think I completely understand.
Bah, murder is human nature, too.
Online sex is retarded. One step below people who jerk off in porn theaters. [Reply]
Originally Posted by ENDelt260:
Hey Big Daddy.... next time you pull that trick, can I be "that guy"? Y'know... just in case it doesn't go the way you expect.
It's funny sometimes things get takin out of context when your trying to make a point. We don't go out that much and when we do she almost always flirts with women and rarely guys unless she is interested in their women. Whatever, the point is acting jealous makes you lose all control in the relationship. Funny thing about some people. They do something and it doesn't work so instead of figuring out what will they just keep doing the wrong thing stronger. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Taco John:
It there a distinction between "Online Flirting" and "Online Sex?"
I think online flirting is pretty harmless in a relationship. Flirting is human nature. I think Online Sex is a different story... One that I don't think I completely understand.
You did seem a little lost our first few times. [Reply]
