Originally Posted by htismaqe:
I'm glad I'm not a mod anymore. I enjoy this place much more than back then. A big part of that, though, isn't that the board changed, it's that I changed. I was 27 when we started this place, just got married, and had no kids.
My oldest daughter is talking about getting married now. I'm a completely different person.
That being said, I wouldn't go back and change anything. It has all worked out in the end. Super Bowl Champs!
That’s wild. I am 27 now. Married, and our child will be born in October. Any advice? [Reply]
Originally Posted by htismaqe:
I love my girls to death but yeah, they're in a different world when it comes to emotional stuff...
It becomes frustrating, I let my wife handle most all of it because I can't relate to someone who thinks they're world is ending because they didn't see their boyfriend today. [Reply]
Originally Posted by htismaqe:
All joking aside, my oldest daughter was born in October.
The first 10 years with girls was serene. No falling out of trees, jumping homemade bike ramps, or firecracker accidents.
Then they turn 12-13 and everything goes to hell in a hand basket. :-)
Good to know. We have a boy on the way, so I'm appreciating our beautiful house now, because I have a feeling it'll look like the road to Mordor by the time he's a teenager. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Chiefspants:
Good to know. We have a boy on the way, so I'm appreciating our beautiful house now, because I have a feeling it'll look like the road to Mordor by the time he's a teenager.
Teen boys though are much easier, hand them a controller and things roll smooth, girls though will threaten to smear your blood on the wall because you dare threaten that her boyfriend isn't the most important thing in this world. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Mecca:
Teen boys though are much easier, hand them a controller and things roll smooth, girls though will threaten to smear your blood on the wall because you dare threaten that her boyfriend isn't the most important thing in this world.
That's what I've heard, though also I expect to come home with a few holes in the wall and a BS story about how a stranger came in the house and practiced their fastballs or some such (if he's anything like I was at 12 :-) ). [Reply]
Originally Posted by Mecca:
Teen boys though are much easier, hand them a controller and things roll smooth, girls though will threaten to smear your blood on the wall because you dare threaten that her boyfriend isn't the most important thing in this world.
One of my best friends always said girls are easier for the first 10 years and boys are easier for the second 10.
Teen boys are easier, but you have to get through the 15,000 trips to the ER first before you get there.
Girls just wake up one day and they're suddenly complicated. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Chiefspants:
Good to know. We have a boy on the way, so I'm appreciating our beautiful house now, because I have a feeling it'll look like the road to Mordor by the time he's a teenager.
Toys everywhere. In his bedroom, in the play room, in the living room, in the kitchen, and in our bedroom. My kiddo is 4, and he's currently into monster trucks, Lego, and cars (which he tends to pretend are all transformers of some kind). Lots more, but those are the main ones. And, yes, I've stepped on my fair share of Lego bricks. :-)
I wanted a boy so bad, as did my boyfriend. Totally figured I'd end up with a girl...lol. I had more than one friend tell me that they couldn't see me being anything other than a boy mom. So thankful for my little guy. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Chiefspants:
That’s wild. I am 27 now. Married, and our child will be born in October. Any advice?
Be ready for the most wonderful years of your life. There are many rewarding things in life, I've been blessed with a great life, but our kids have been the cornerstone of that great life.
Advice. Get involved... Resist any temptation to put work above your kids. You can't not work, but you can make sure you do everything in your power to be with them, listen to them, let them find out who THEY are, and support it (within reason). At the same time, set boundaries and expectations. In our house (two sons), they have to 1) Become an Eagle Scout (shows persistence and perseverance for a kid), 2) play a musical instrument (studies show it helps the brain in so many ways, and gives them an appreciation of the arts), and 3) they have to play a sport (because too many kids today are fat and don't get what sports really teach). Next, coach... I coach(ed) football, baseball, wrestling, and hockey, it is/was quality time with my sons, and they got to experience physical challenges that come along with sports and physical competition. Like last night, we rushed from Hockey Practice to marching band practice. It was a good night.
Open doors for them. While both my sons dive because they saw me dive, I never pushed them into it, but when they showed interest I jumped at the chance to let them take it as far as they want. My younger son wants to fly so we're working that now too (where there's a will there's a way). It's just a matter of opening doors for them to try things. Oh, and if they find they don't like it, let it go.
So make sure you don't squander these next two decades with that wonderful son or daughter, embrace it, enjoy it, and while you don't need to live vicariously through your kids, you sure as heck can be involved.
Above all, love that/those kid(s) without reservation. They are you, you are them, they will always be yours. Make sure they know, no matter what, that you'll always love them.
Originally Posted by GloryDayz:
Be ready for the most wonderful years of your life. There are many rewarding things in life, I've been blessed with a great life, but our kids have been the cornerstone of a a great life.
Advice. Get involved... Resist any temptation to put work above your kids. You can't not work, but you can make sure you do everything in your power to be with them, listen to them, let them find out who THEY are, and support it (within reason). At the same time, set boundaries and expectations. In our house (two sons), they have to 1) Become an Eagle Scout (shows persistence and perseverance for a kid), play a musical instrument (studies show it helps the brain in so many ways, and gives them an appreciation of the arts), and they have to play a sport (because too many kids today are fat and don't get what sports really teach). Next, coach... I coach(ed) football, baseball, wrestling, and hockey, it is/was quality time with my sons, and they got to experience physical challenges that come along with sports and physical competition. Like last night, we rushed from Hockey Practice to marching band practice. It was a good night.
Open doors for them. While both my sons dive because they saw me dive, I never pushed them into it, but when they showed interest, I jumped at the chance to let them take it as far as they want. My yonder son wants to fly, so we're working that too. It's a matter of opening doors for them to try things. Oh, and if they find they don't like it, let it go.
So make sure you don't squander these next two decades with that wonderful son or daughter, embrace it, enjoy it, and you don't need to live vicariously through your kids, you sure as heck can be involved.
Above all, love that/those kid(s) without reservation. They are you, you are them, they will always be yours. Make sure they know that, no matter what, you'll always love them.
Hope that helps...
