Is online flirting, when you know your S.O. disapproves, OK because you "are only flirting online and not in the real world"?
My opinion (surprise, surprise) is that it's not OK, period. It's said to be OK because it's not face-to-face, and online it's just fun and games.
I call bullsh!t. People meet online friends in person all the time. They even meet their future spouses online. The "it's only online" argument is bogus.
I would also imagine that many of those who feel it's OK would be less than eager to have their own S.O.s discover their activity.
Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita:
No, I'm saying her sexuality is not related to the topic at hand.
Of course it is. You post a subject everyone knows is personal and keep it from being so even though it involves members of the board. Then you want to speak in vague generalities.
1. It isn't appropriate (what isn't appropriate? What's going over the line?)
2. Her sexuality doesn't matter (of course it does flirting is all about sexuality)
3. Your barking up the wrong tree. (how so?)
4. Men just want to **** women that flirt with them (Funny I thought men just want to **** all good looking women I didn't know flirtation was a prerequesite.
If you have a good looking women it comes down to a matter of trust as multiple guys are trying to hit that every day. Other than that it is kind of hard to seriously address you when you keep hiding under the covers trying not to expose yourself on the subject. [Reply]
Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY:
Of course it is. You post a subject everyone knows is personal and keep it from being so even though it involves members of the board. Then you want to speak in vague generalities.
1. It isn't appropriate (what isn't appropriate? What's going over the line?)
2. Her sexuality doesn't matter (of course it does flirting is all about sexuality)
3. Your barking up the wrong tree. (how so?)
4. Men just want to **** women that flirt with them (Funny I thought men just want to **** all good looking women I didn't know flirtation was a prerequesite.
If you have a good looking women it comes down to a matter of trust as multiple guys are trying to hit that every day. Other than that it is kind of hard to seriously address you when you keep hiding under the covers trying not to expose yourself on the subject.
My original post just asked for the others' opinions on online flirting.
I don't know why any of my personal information would be relevant. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita:
My original post just asked for the others' opinions on online flirting.
I don't know why any of my personal information would be relevant.
Because it's the only thing that is relevant and is why you posted this thread and everybody knows it. You want to make it a non-personal issue to feel more comfortable OK. Bottom line is the woman who has a man upset because she flirts online owns him and she knows it. The problem isn't the computer or the guys online either. The problem comes down to being owned and the women becoming board with her relationship because of it. The chase is over she already has his papers. Where is the excitement there? Many guys don't know this but ask a woman and if she is honest will tell you this is the absolute truth. In a relationship it is the womans job to take control of the relationship and it is the mans job to make sure that never takes place. The reason for this is if she ever takes control and he lets her she loses attraction BIG TIME. Women want what they can't have or a least something that still remains a challenge. She may still stay in the relationship but it's not a relationship worth having IMO. The question isn't whether you personally think it is right or wrong. The question is what are you going to do about it? Bitching to all your buddies on the BB she posts on isn't going to do it rest assured. That is a total wussy move and if there is anything in the world more unattractive to a woman than being a wussyman I don't know what it is. Maybe some guy that smells funny or something. I could tell you what to do but you probably wouldn't listen, you never have before. [Reply]
Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY:
The problem comes down to being owned and the women becoming board with her relationship because of it. The chase is over she already has his papers. Where is the excitement there? Many guys don't know this but ask a woman and if she is honest will tell you this is the absolute truth. In a relationship it is the womans job to take control of the relationship and it is the mans job to make sure that never takes place. The reason for this is if she ever takes control and he lets her she loses attraction BIG TIME. Women want what they can't have or a least something that still remains a challenge. She may still stay in the relationship but it's not a relationship worth having IMO.
Its wrong if your with a significant other, becuase that shit can turn out to be much much more then just internet flirting.
Its not a bad thing one of my best friends is a chick i have met from a chat room back in like 1996. She comes down to visit every so often. Hell, once she brought her friend with her, and me and her friend hooked up nd ated for a while, before i ****ed it all up. Should have kept her, she was so damn nice. Oh well, mistakes people make. lol [Reply]
Originally Posted by :
An argument isn't just contradiction. An argument is a connected series of statements intended to establish a proposition. Argument is an intellectual process. Contradiction is just the automatic gainsaying of any statement the other person makes.
If you want me to go on arguing, you'll have to pay for another five minutes. [Reply]
Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY:
Because it's the only thing that is relevant and is why you posted this thread and everybody knows it. You want to make it a non-personal issue to feel more comfortable OK. Bottom line is the woman who has a man upset because she flirts online owns him and she knows it. The problem isn't the computer or the guys online either. The problem comes down to being owned and the women becoming board with her relationship because of it. The chase is over she already has his papers. Where is the excitement there? Many guys don't know this but ask a woman and if she is honest will tell you this is the absolute truth. In a relationship it is the womans job to take control of the relationship and it is the mans job to make sure that never takes place. The reason for this is if she ever takes control and he lets her she loses attraction BIG TIME. Women want what they can't have or a least something that still remains a challenge. She may still stay in the relationship but it's not a relationship worth having IMO. The question isn't whether you personally think it is right or wrong. The question is what are you going to do about it? Bitching to all your buddies on the BB she posts on isn't going to do it rest assured. That is a total wussy move and if there is anything in the world more unattractive to a woman than being a wussyman I don't know what it is. Maybe some guy that smells funny or something. I could tell you what to do but you probably wouldn't listen, you never have before.
Women (men too) who need a "chase" simply need to grow up.
BTW, I never did get your opinion on online flirting... [Reply]
Is this your way of telling us to leave Red alone? If so, just come out and say, "Guys, I don't appreciate ya'all messing with Red." That would be preferable to beating around the bush about it. Of course, that would likely only increase the "flirting," heh. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Lurch:
Is this your way of telling us to leave Red alone? If so, just come out and say, "Guys, I don't appreciate ya'all messing with Red." That would be preferable to beating around the bush about it.
Not at all.
If that's what I wanted to say, believe me, I'd say it. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Mer:
It's so sickeningly true.
I don't know why men date us.
I don't know what I'm talking about though just ask Clint. You will find him bitching on a sports BB about his wifes flirting behavior.
No matter how much a man loves his women he has to be ready to leave that relationship rather than lose control at any time if he wants it to be a good one. It's not like women I have been with over the years have not crossed the line. Instead of bitching about it to her and having a fight and acting all jealous thereby losing all power in the relationship I chose to go another direction, exactly the opposite of what you would expect. Without getting jealous at all I just told her I thought she should hook up with that guy. I told her how hot he was and said I would want to **** him if I was a woman and left it at that. I gotta tell you it worked wonderfully. "I love you. I want to be with you. Stop it that's not funny" type of reactions followed by the hug that announces to whoever the other guy is that she has no intention of wandering. [Reply]