As i mentioned previously, I have been in this situation a few times. Here is my favorite recovery story:
I was dating a girl while in the Army and she phased up before me. She was able to go off post, wear civilian clothes, get weekend passes, and drive a car. I was left in the barracks with a cerfew.
My best friend phased up with her. I felt he would look out for her for me and be a decent friend. I was wrong.
I finally phased up, after some rocky moments in our relationship. We took a "break" but she asked me to join her on a Friday night with my best friend and I thought things were improving.
We went to a hookah bar, smoked, drank, and had a genuinely great time. We went back to the rented hotel room we all paid for to drink down cheaper beer and bullshit. This is where all hell broke loose.
I kid you not, within 30 minutes, the girl I cared about started making out with my best friend right in front of me. It eventually escalated to their clothes coming off, at which point I gathered my shit and got the fuck out of there before I went to jail.
This was a tough one to recover from; my girlfriend of 2 years before the Army cheated on me with my best friend, saying that she missed me and my friend reminder her of me. Bullshit. So here I was again.
This time around I took a different stance: I would kill them with kindness. I was the only one with a car. They had the balls to ask me on occasion to take them to a hotel for the weekend. I obliged with every ounce of my soul writhing.
To make a long story short, I kept this up for some time, and it eventually are away at their relationship. With me being their chauffeur, I got to witness it firsthand. Karma at its finest.
These things make me who I am today, and I know, without a doubt, I can handle some shit. I wish you the best, bro. Hang in there. [Reply]
Use this as leverage. You will rise from this like a phoenix from the ashes.
One of the keys to getting over a breakup smoothly is to avoid all contact- it needs to be a CLEAN cut. Embrace the change, you'll grow so much from this man, I ****ing believe in you.
Also remember to keep your self-value high during this process, if you let it go down, that's when it becomes really really tough. The more your self value goes down, the weaker you become. The weaker you become, the more you need the girl back. Focus on bettering yourself and your daughter- in fact make that your sole purpose from here on out- that alone will turn you into a ****ing beast in no time.
Maybe you should not post this stuff on a message board... Your girl went crazy, you are probably drunk. Delete this account and lawyer up. Just my drunken advice. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Hamwallet:
Maybe you should not post this stuff on a message board... Your girl went crazy, you are probably drunk. Delete this account and lawyer up. Just my drunken advice.
Bullshit. This is a great outlet. I did the same when I lost my job and it was a big help.
No one would give a shit if you posted something like this though so I get your dickness. [Reply]