Originally Posted by Katipan:
We had a big conversation on CP when it happened. Wasn’t a secret. But I’m delighted to think you might not know half the shit about me that I’ve posted about. 😁
Well im sorry to hear that Katipan. Now that you mention it, maybe i did read that and forgot.
Much love to you, Kati, and your kid too. That's fucking rough. Really sorry to hear. Fuckin' terrible.
My parents were OK but a bit distant in a lot of ways, especially my dad.
I'm getting better at connecting to both of my kids, especially my son. I have a lot in common with my daughter in terms of interests and hobbies so her and my connection has been fairly easy. My son is a different story and it most likely does start with the way my dad was towards me. He wanted nothing to do with emotion and feelings; if he was hurt in some way, it tended to come out in either silence or rage. I have the same tendencies but I want to get better (and so does my wife, she grew up with a similar dad) and with some work, I have. I still pop at times but I'm way quicker to walk away/apologize/etc.
It's been hard but it's worth it and I believe the future for both of my kids will reflect that. It's definitely a marathon and not a sprint. [Reply]
I was actually present, unlike my Dad, so I know I’m better than he was. I raised one all by myself with no assistance from the mother, including no child support. That makes me half as good as my Mom who raised two on her own with no help. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Katipan:
We had a big conversation on CP when it happened. Wasn’t a secret. But I’m delighted to think you might not know half the shit about me that I’ve posted about. 😁
I clearly don't, either.
It appears you came out the other side with healthy kids, so well done. But all the same, I'm really sorry you and your children had to endure that. I have no clue how I would have handled that situation. Total nightmare fuel. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Bowser:
I clearly don't, either.
It appears you came out the other side with healthy kids, so well done. But all the same, I'm really sorry you and your children had to endure that. I have no clue how I would have handled that situation. Total nightmare fuel.
I helped launch marijuana in Colorado. ❤️
And drank.
A lot. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Spott:
I was actually present, unlike my Dad, so I know I’m better than he was. I raised one all by myself with no assistance from the mother, including no child support. That makes me half as good as my Mom who raised two on her own with no help.
And the world don't treat single dads the way it treats single moms either. Respect. [Reply]
Yes. No doubt. I loved my parents, but mom never showed love. Was hard to get to know. It loosened up a little as there were grandkids. But not perfect.
Dad was great. Farmer-and spent life working. That was the top priority.
But I was never the outgoing kid. [Reply]
Originally Posted by ToxSocks:
And the world don't treat single dads the way it treats single moms either. Respect.
Not as much, but honestly sometimes I would get more compliments from it while I was going through it. It’s almost like people don’t expect guys to take that role and just assume it’s a given that women will be the ones to do it. Fwiw, it was damn hard and I don’t recommend it. People need to work through that relationships, especially when they have children. [Reply]
My dad was pretty grumpy when I was growing up and I didn't help the situation by being a shithead. I get along great with my parents now and visit them about every 3rd day... but I hope I have a better relationship with my kids than I did with my parents when I was a teen. [Reply]