Originally Posted by patteeu:
Unfortunately (and I'm sure unintentionally), you were encouraging her to buy into the excuses that she'd need to take the easier path instead of the path that will lead to greater long term satisfaction. Fortunately she remains strong enough to reject that temptation. Let's all resolve to encourage her to stick to her program.
Not just me. There are a lot of us trying to lose weight on here. I actually think losing weight while single would be easier, unless your spouse/SO were trying to lose as well. Being with someone who could eat whatever and look good would either cause me to commit murder or give in to the tempting food that they'd have around. I do appreciate your encouragement, though, as I'm sure others would. [Reply]
Originally Posted by luv:
Not just me. There are a lot of us trying to lose weight on here. I actually think losing weight while single would be easier, unless your spouse/SO were trying to lose as well. Being with someone who could eat whatever and look good would either cause me to commit murder or give in to the tempting food that they'd have around. I do appreciate your encouragement, though, as I'm sure others would.
Yeah, I saw that thread. It was a great idea and Tiny E is very generous for providing the incentive. Good luck to you and all of the others. [Reply]
Originally Posted by patteeu:
Unfortunately (and I'm sure unintentionally), you were encouraging her to buy into the excuses that she'd need to take the easier path instead of the path that will lead to greater long term satisfaction. Fortunately she remains strong enough to reject that temptation. Let's all resolve to encourage her to stick to her program.
My goal was to help her see that the inside matters more than the outside, or at least it should. I was getting the impression from her that she was down on herself simply because she didn't like the way she looked and thought no one else would like her either. If I was wrong in that assumption then my bad. I think (hope) luv understands that and I'm sorry luv if I came off wrong. No harm was meant. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Katipan:
5'8" doesn't allow for 104.
heh.
A fun summer and a few 8-balls maybe...
Yeah, at that height she may even have trouble getting to her target weight depending on how she's built, but she has plenty of time to decide when it makes sense to transition to a maintenance lifestyle. [Reply]
Originally Posted by beer me:
My goal was to help her see that the inside matters more than the outside, or at least it should. I was getting the impression from her that she was down on herself simply because she didn't like the way she looked and thought no one else would like her either. If I was wrong in that assumption then my bad. I think (hope) luv understands that and I'm sorry luv if I came off wrong. No harm was meant.
We've discussed this elsewhere, but I'm sure you've probably missed it. Often, self-satisfaction is death for self-improvement. People aren't fat because they're lazy, they're fat because they don't loathe their fat more than they enjoy eating with thinking about it. You have to, at some level, HATE what you've become to change it. [Reply]
