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First thing I want to mention is The Attraction Forums & Love Systems very own... SINN (and The Pheromone Kid). My success in Same Night Lays (different from One Night Stands) got a lot better... weather we will be with a big group in a restaurant, in a house party, or a club... I learned this trick from SINN and The Pheromone Kid (and I hope they won't get pissed at me for sharing this LOL! Because... this is gold) and with that trick... oh man. The second it works you go back to day one where you say, "Holy shit! I can't believe this worked!"
What's the trick? ... Ask the girl if she wants to see you jerk off ("Take care of yourself") while she watches.
... How fucked is that? LOL I know! I know! When I found out about it, I said, "NO WAY! THIS SHIT IS IMPOSSIBLE!" But I asked so many girls... no one gave me a "EWW! YOUR FUCKING GROSS!", they either giggled it off... or wanted to see it. It's insane... Because I guarantee you, that any girl you ask (Unless SINN, Pheromone Kid or I have been through them already ) that question will be in shock because no one has asked her that before. It's a beautiful thing and it works! Weather it be in the bathroom of some nightclub, or at the back of a restaurant, or at a room in a house party... the second she will see you flip out your penis... she will do something with it. (9/10 times). So try it out guys, and report back. You can get her into the washroom in matter of 5 minutes or 2 hours, it all depends on how you play your cards and how tight your game is.
From what I have seen here on the planet, your have a 2 part problem: 1. You don't have a place that you are comfortable meeting available ladies. 2. Ice breaking - When given an opportunity you lack the confidence, fear the rejection... something to that effect. I have read enough of your posts here to think that you are witty enuf and should do well enough at getting to know, making a girl laugh, and potentially getting a gf and maybe some nookie.
2 suggestions: 1- Get a wingman. A good one. One whose area of expertise is breaking the ice. Could be a her...if available, very effective. You will learn from your wingman and soon be able to do the same. 2- Remember that talking and getting shot down leads to no further contact, no gf, and no action... same as never saying a word to her in the first place. What you got to lose? What if she tells you to Fuck off, who cares? You get that here all the time. Remember, it is not the holy grail, just the fishy tail.
I can't offer too much on the area of finding 'your place', that is a pretty individual thing. Some guys like bars, some like myspace, some like the library...some stick to the workplace (bad idea imo). Good luck either way. [Reply]
Originally Posted by ChiefsCountry:
By the way Houston is pretty cool town. The weather is nice - compared to the crap Springfield and KC had last couple of weeks.
Houston is an armpit in the summer. Winters are great though. [Reply]
Well. I just got my first rejection of the new year. I have a friend who i get along great with. He knows I'm going to try to lose a lot of weight. I asked him if he would consider dating me if I lost the weight. He said that he prefered short blondes, so no. Eh. He took it as a hypothetical, which I guess it was. I would definitely date him if he wanted to, so it stung a little to know I'll never stand a chance. Oh well. I've decided that I do want to start dating again. If nothing, just to get out and do stuff and meet new people. However, I'm not going to persue anything until after I lose the weight. That will give me some extra motivation. Hopefully, I can find someone who actually prefers brunettes. :-) [Reply]
Originally Posted by luv:
Well. I just got my first rejection of the new year. I have a friend who i get along great with. He knows I'm going to try to lose a lot of weight. I asked him if he would consider dating me if I lost the weight. He said that he prefered short blondes, so no. Eh. He took it as a hypothetical, which I guess it was. I would definitely date him if he wanted to, so it stung a little to know I'll never stand a chance. Oh well. I've decided that I do want to start dating again. If nothing, just to get out and do stuff and meet new people. However, I'm not going to persue anything until after I lose the weight. That will give me some extra motivation. Hopefully, I can find someone who actually prefers brunettes. :-)
Don't ask a man to date you IF you lose weight... good lord girl. If he likes who you are and he isn't completely shallow it shouldn't matter. You made yourself out to be not good enough as you are from the start that way. You put yourself in a "please accept me after I change for you" position. Thats bullshit. You have to know you're worth having for him to see it.
And any guy that won't date you because of your hair color....... you don't want. [Reply]
Originally Posted by beer me:
Don't ask a man to date you IF you lose weight... good lord girl. If he likes who you are and he isn't completely shallow it shouldn't matter. You made yourself out to be not good enough as you are from the start that way. You put yourself in a "please accept me after I change for you" position. Thats bullshit. You have to know you're worth having for him to see it.
And any guy that won't date you because of your hair color....... you don't want.
I wouldn't date me right now. And I'm not changing for him. I'm changing for me. And the first state I just made explains part of why. If I'm not happy with myself as a whole, I can't expect someone else to be happy with me. And yes, I won't be persuing someone as shallow as that. It actually kind of surprised me. We hang out sometimes, and get along well. I guess we'd just never talked about dating type stuff before. [Reply]
Originally Posted by luv:
I wouldn't date me right now. And I'm not changing for him. I'm changing for me. And the first state I just made explains part of why. If I'm not happy with myself as a whole, I can't expect someone else to be happy with me. And yes, I won't be persuing someone as shallow as that. It actually kind of surprised me. We hang out sometimes, and get along well. I guess we'd just never talked about dating type stuff before.
Why wouldn't you date you right now? Because you think you need to lose weight?
Yeah, but I don't mean that to sound like I'm shallow. I just think it would be hard to feel comfortable with someone if I'm busy feeling insecure about how I look. Whether he minds or not, I have to not mind. [Reply]
