The big anti-hijack thread.....
Talk about anything, but if this works than we don't have to keep looking around all the threads to see who is still on tonight, and every night, or even every day! Talk about the chiefs, talk about tomorrow, talk about football, politics or even how to do flooring and the applicable budget. What you're drinking, how hard it is to sleep, etc. Every thing is acceptable in this thread.....
Originally Posted by Lumpy:
Regardless of what happened, imagine for a moment that you do break up w/ her and you both go your separate ways. Could you live w/ the thought of her being w/ someone else? If you truly love her, like you said, that thought will bring sadness or a fit of rage over you.
I've had people tell me that, or I've heard people tell other people that "if you can't stand the thought of them with someone else, that means you love that person." I say that idea is BS (no offense Lumpy).
If you've been in even a semi serious relationship that you could see becoming serious - when the topic of breaking up comes up, you never like the thought of them with someone else. Nobody wants to think about their girlfriend with another guy.
To me, if you want to know if you truly love that person, the question you need to ask yourself is can YOU live without her?
Originally Posted by Lumpy:
Ok. I decided to skim back through a few pages and a BIG WTF, Buck?! You told her about CP?! If she's a smart chick, you're hosed!
She's dating Buck. I doubt ha has anything to worry about.
Originally Posted by Mr. Plow:
I've had people tell me that, or I've heard people tell other people that "if you can't stand the thought of them with someone else, that means you love that person." I say that idea is BS (no offense Lumpy).
If you've been in even a semi serious relationship that you could see becoming serious - when the topic of breaking up comes up, you never like the thought of them with someone else. Nobody wants to think about their girlfriend with another guy.
To me, if you want to know if you truly love that person, the question you need to ask yourself is can YOU live without that her?
Originally Posted by Mr. Plow:
I've had people tell me that, or I've heard people tell other people that "if you can't stand the thought of them with someone else, that means you love that person." I say that idea is BS (no offense Lumpy).
If you've been in even a semi serious relationship that you could see becoming serious - when the topic of breaking up comes up, you never like the thought of them with someone else. Nobody wants to think about their girlfriend with another guy.
To me, if you want to know if you truly love that person, the question you need to ask yourself is can YOU live without that her?
No offense taken. That may be part jealousy, (like what Setsuna said). You made a valid point too. But when someone comes on a public board and states that they love their gf/wife, but wants to end it, it makes you wonder what could be horribly wrong w/ their relationship?
EVERY relationship has ups and downs, but the worse thing someone can do is not think long and hard about how the break-up will influence their life. (Yes, I just typed, "long and hard". Heh.)
But, on the other hand, Buck's seeking someone outside of the relationship to fill a void. This leads me to believe that he probably does love her, but he's no longer IN love w/ her. I hope I'm wrong though and that he's just a guy that gets off by the attention from the other chick.
Regardless, if he wanted to pursue a relationship w/ this other chick, it's not fair to his g/f, (or the chick's b/f for that matter). But then again, nobody is married in this love triangle, so that eliminates a lot of complications.
Originally Posted by Lumpy:
No offense taken. That may be part jealousy, (like what Setsuna said). You made a valid point too. But when someone comes on a public board and states that they love their gf/wife, but wants to end it, it makes you wonder what could be horribly wrong w/ their relationship?
EVERY relationship has ups and downs, but the worse thing someone can do is not think long and hard about how the break-up will influence their life. (Yes, I just typed, "long and hard". Heh.)
But, on the other hand, Buck's seeking someone outside of the relationship to fill a void. This leads me to believe that he probably does love her, but he's no longer IN love w/ her. I hope I'm wrong though and that he's just a guy that gets off by the attention from the other chick.
Regardless, if he wanted to pursue a relationship w/ this other chick, it's not fair to his g/f, (or the chick's b/f for that matter). But then again, nobody is married in this love triangle, so that eliminates a lot of complications.
Ding ding ding! I haven't been feeling it being reciprocated from this other girl for quite a while. I mean, I like sex, but I also really like her, and I want to feel loved too. I'm not. That's why the talk is going to happen.
Originally Posted by Buck:
Ding ding ding! I haven't been feeling it being reciprocated from this other girl for quite a while. I mean, I like sex, but I also really like her, and I want to feel loved too. I'm not. That's why the talk is going to happen.
Reciprocity is enormously important. Hell, if I don't get reciprocity from just friends calling to hang out or go do stuff I eventually write them off or stop calling. If there's a lack of it in a relationship, then it's definitely over.
Originally Posted by Buck:
Ding ding ding! I haven't been feeling it being reciprocated from this other girl for quite a while. I mean, I like sex, but I also really like her, and I want to feel loved too. I'm not. That's why the talk is going to happen.
A bill for my services will arrive in your mailbox in the next 3-5 working days. :-)
