I need some help with some things i need to know on gettin married, the do's, the dont's, the things you need to know about that.
I see you guys here some are married some arent so the ones that know stuff i need to know let me know about it.
So what are the things i should know about it, cause i dont wanna wait my whole life to get married, i actually wanna be married before i turn 26 which is 6 years from now.
But I wanna get started early in startin a family, so what are the do's and dont's in marriage ???
Originally Posted by Chico Diablo:
17, but that's beside the point. No, I will probably not have that relationship if I get married because of a couple things that have happened. Basically, it all boiled down to the fact that I have to go "find someone else", which means closing my eyes and acting.
From that last post, I gather you think there's only one person for everyone. Don't think that way, because from what it sounds like, you've already screwed yourself.
Originally Posted by Chico Diablo:
however, that wouldn't hold water in the least bit, but don't think for one second that what I believe should be any kind of threat to what you believe.
Originally Posted by :
Now about this "human nature"...the majority of people create a sphere of influence over time. Look at "Allegory of the Cave" as an example. People are forced to look at false images since birth and because they know nothing else, they have to believe that is reality. They may break away from the cave wall with the shadows and move toward the fire to see the puppets creating the shadow, but all they have found out is that what they knew was a lie...they still don't know the truth. A person would have to be carried out of the cave kicking and screaming and forced to see what reality is. So that is pretty much why we believe it is "human nature"...whether you agree with that or not, that's for you to decide
Huh? What's any of that have to do with finding the opposite sex attractive? They might be fake boobs, but they aren't a false image.
Originally Posted by Bearcat:
From that last post, I gather you think there's only one person for everyone. Don't think that way, because from what it sounds like, you've already screwed yourself.
Originally Posted by Phobia:
Have I mentioned that I hate teacher in service days and school holidays?
Heh... I find it interesting to see others go through the same high school stuff, like royIII, but somewhat disturbing when I see someone that thinks they have it all figured out at 17.
Originally Posted by Bearcat:
Heh... I find it interesting to see others go through the same high school stuff, like royIII, but somewhat disturbing when I see someone that thinks they have it all figured out at 17.
Glad lunch is over.
I have much more respect for royIII. He came here wanting to ask questions about something he realized he knew nothing about. He recognized that he was ignorant on the subject. On the other hand, spankmaster flash here doesn't even realize that.
Originally Posted by unlurking:
I'm sure if Roy had 2 females on here do more than talk to him he'd be willing to wait! How far are you willing to go to help the spud? :-)
(just kidding!)
Red what are ya up for to save this boys future? :-)
Originally Posted by Bearcat:
Please elaborate.... Have you held hands with that many girls? Have you caught eyes in the hallway with that many girls? I sure as hell know you haven't dated that many girls, much less have been in a relationship with them. Don't give me that "you don't even know me anymore" crap, either. I know unless you think a relationship can totally take place in a high school, you haven't been in 1.
8 relationships includes the lady from the vet, "Young man, please tell your mother Fido is ready to be picked up" - a lady from the phone company, "Are you SURE you don't want to switch to MCI?" - and a couple of female teachers from school.... oh - and your mother too.
Originally Posted by Bearcat:
From that last post, I gather you think there's only one person for everyone. Don't think that way, because from what it sounds like, you've already screwed yourself.
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Huh? What's any of that have to do with finding the opposite sex attractive? They might be fake boobs, but they aren't a false image.
I'll start with this one cause it's gonna take the least amount of time...
"One person for everyone" means that there is only one person that you will have the strongest feeling for...if you've met that person, you have to learn how to close your eyes again (I'm speaking metaphorically, so don't be an asshole and say that you can do that when you blink and sleep)...you don't have to be with that person, just close your eyes so you're blindly attracted to others just like everyone else in the world. You're not truely gonna be happy, but who cares.
I was showing how society has painted an image of what human nature is. For instance, there's a majority that says one thing is a brilliant conclusion and they teach it as fact to all future generations...the vast majority of people are going to believe it because it's all they've ever known, then there are going to be the few that start to question it and say that what was complete BS. A good example, although by far not the best, is religion.
Originally Posted by Chico Diablo:
...just close your eyes so you're blindly attracted to others just like everyone else in the world. You're not truely gonna be happy, but who cares.
You should cut your losses and say, "Yep, I'm just a dumbshit who really has no life experiences to validate the crap I've been spewing", instead of providing more ammo for the masses.
Originally Posted by Bearcat:
I came on to this thread thinking about how people would be laughing at roy, even though we shouldn't, because we've all been there.... and really, the only thing we can do is offer advice, even though we know he wouldn't take it.... because we didn't.
8 pages into this though, I was happy to find the advice of Suave Diablo..... it's one thing to be naive and to tell people "I'm really in love" or whatever, but it's just wrong to come off like you're an expert because you think adults are full of it when they say teenagers don't have enough real-life experience. You don't. Don't pretend you do.
I hate how you do this time-consuming "group all the questions into one post" stuff...but I guess it's easier for everyone to stay consistant.
Originally Posted by :
Is this like the half-life law of marriage? WTF? Is this one of your "facts"?
More of a half-life law of infatuation, but even calling it that would be going a bit too far. It's just to give an idea of what's probable.
Originally Posted by :
You were doing okay until this total BS.... for the most part, people appreciate the beauty of the human body. From a young age, to death. Period. It's not just asking too much, it's impossible to take away the basic attraction between you and someone else, much less all but one person. The temptation might go away, but not attraction.
What basis do you have for claiming that it's impossible? All you know is what you have from your experiences. Now, I'll admit that it's rare to find such a thing to happen, but it's not impossible.
Originally Posted by :
Two and four are high school feelings. The idea that you're trying to be an adult about a topic you hardly know anything about vanishes with these ideas.
The highschool feeling part is SAYING that you'll do it and then wimp out when push comes to shove. It's part of the "law" when you actually do it.
Originally Posted by :
Please elaborate.
How else would anyone know that something is both possible and probable?
Originally Posted by :
Please elaborate.... Have you held hands with that many girls? Have you caught eyes in the hallway with that many girls? I sure as hell know you haven't dated that many girls, much less have been in a relationship with them. Don't give me that "you don't even know me anymore" crap, either. I know unless you think a relationship can totally take place in a high school, you haven't been in 1.
You know that this statement of yours shouldn't even be dignified with a response.... 9 short flings, and 1 that was known although not a relationship.
Originally Posted by :
YES YOU HAVE!!! "This is a fact", "that's a fact", 79.8% it'll fail, while 43.84% of the stats I type are made up... You TOTALLY come off like you think you're Dr. Phil.
Pointing out some facts does not make anyone an expert. I can point out that one plus one equals two, the diaganols of a rectangle are equal to one another, and sine equals csc(90degrees - Pi), but that doesn't make me a math expert. As I stated about the statistics, those were rough estimates that I provided to give an idea of how probable it was.
Originally Posted by :
Elaborate please. Or do I have to wait until tomorrow? :-)
You--specifically--are going to wait four years to hear the story. You don't seem to take information from people very well unless they're completely adults...if you'd like to try to disprove that, go ahead.
Originally Posted by Dartgod:
You should cut your losses and say, "Yep, I'm just a dumbshit who really has no life experiences to validate the crap I've been spewing", instead of providing more ammo for the masses.
If the statement you wish me to say were true, this thread would be about 4 pages shorter.
