Is online flirting, when you know your S.O. disapproves, OK because you "are only flirting online and not in the real world"?
My opinion (surprise, surprise) is that it's not OK, period. It's said to be OK because it's not face-to-face, and online it's just fun and games.
I call bullsh!t. People meet online friends in person all the time. They even meet their future spouses online. The "it's only online" argument is bogus.
I would also imagine that many of those who feel it's OK would be less than eager to have their own S.O.s discover their activity.
Originally Posted by Iowanian:
I only participate in football message boards and poker sites. I always assume its a dude on the other end, unless I know better.
I made a rule with my wife before we hitched that when I wasn't around, she should simply ask herself.."If Iowanian were watching or listening right now, would he be pissed off?" If the answer is yes, don't do it.
I do my best to follow the same rule.
I think my limit would be the following.
1. Would she care if I were reading it(or would I care if she read my posts)
2. Is it in the public forum?
If it were in Email or PM form....Heads would roll for sure.
I trust my bride and she has no reason not to trust me, so its not a problem.
Originally Posted by Iowanian:
I only participate in football message boards and poker sites. I always assume its a dude on the other end, unless I know better.
I made a rule with my wife before we hitched that when I wasn't around, she should simply ask herself.."If Iowanian were watching or listening right now, would he be pissed off?" If the answer is yes, don't do it.
I do my best to follow the same rule.
I think my limit would be the following.
1. Would she care if I were reading it(or would I care if she read my posts)
2. Is it in the public forum?
If it were in Email or PM form....Heads would roll for sure.
I trust my bride and she has no reason not to trust me, so its not a problem.
Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita:
Keep in mind that "flirting" can cover an awful lot of territory...especially online. I'm not just talking about a giggle or a wink.
Of course, some people feel nothing is wrong until bodily fluids are exchanged.
Eh. It's nothing against how anyone else feels. I adore Iowanni and I think his philosophy is nuts too. But since I don't get to date him, I'll just have to accept that it works for his relationship.
There are more than a couple flirty PMs in my box. But I wouldn't hide a damn one of them from my guy. [Reply]
Insecurity is unattractive, just thought you would like to know. The level of attraction your women feels for you is what makes her want to stay with you. How does it feel going through life with a big red insecurity button on your chest that everyone knows is there and can push to make you go off anytime they want? What's even more ridiculous is were talking about a guy who's woman brings other women home to him. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Iowanian:
I only participate in football message boards and poker sites. I always assume its a dude on the other end, unless I know better.
I made a rule with my wife before we hitched that when I wasn't around, she should simply ask herself.."If Iowanian were watching or listening right now, would he be pissed off?" If the answer is yes, don't do it.
I do my best to follow the same rule.
I think my limit would be the following.
1. Would she care if I were reading it(or would I care if she read my posts)
2. Is it in the public forum?
If it were in Email or PM form....Heads would roll for sure.
I trust my bride and she has no reason not to trust me, so its not a problem.
But I'm an asshole.
So why are you always flirting with Chiefs4me then? [Reply]
Originally Posted by Mer:
Eh. It's nothing against how anyone else feels. I adore Iowanni and I think his philosophy is nuts too. But since I don't get to date him, I'll just have to accept that it works for his relationship.
There are more than a couple flirty PMs in my box. But I wouldn't hide a damn one of them from my guy.
Lets clarify something specifically.
I'm very confident in my relationship and the job I do at home. I have no reason to be jealous of anything my wife does. Initially, I didn't like it that she was still friendly with a former long term boyfriend, but once I met the guy, I could care less if they talk on the phone twice a year, or if she wants to have a drink with him and other friends at their class reunion that I hope to dodge again.
For the most part....I'm the one dinking around online, and if she is, its asking other hens about home remedies for infant constipation.
Under other circumstances, with another woman, with other morals and scruples than the one I chose to be with.....my story might go a little different.
I trust her, and I'd let her read anything here or in my email she wanted. She doesn't ask, because she trusts me, but she could. [Reply]
Insecurity is unattractive, just thought you would like to know. The level of attraction your women feels for you is what makes her want to stay with you. How does it feel going through life with a big red insecurity button on your chest that everyone knows is there and can push to make you go off anytime they want? What's even more ridiculous is were talking about a guy who's woman brings other women home to him.
What makes you so sure I posted this for personal reasons?
As for the last sentence, don't believe everything you read. [Reply]
I think I would be angry about that. The question to me isn't, "is there anything wrong with it", it's "why do you feel the need to do that...?" [Reply]
I think at some point it goes over the line, but I'd have a hard time defining where that is any better than Iowanian's if-my-SO-reads-it-will-he/she-care rule, so I'll go with that. The specific answer to the question you really want to ask is "hell yes it's wrong and you should give R&F a severe spanking when she gets home tonight." :-) [Reply]
"hey fine thing, your type'n is teh sexaaaaaaah.....what do you think Pitt is going to do to stop the Denver Roll out?"...is fine with me.
out in the open, with a little comment here or there isn't any big deal to me, but an email with personal info or a detailed blow by blow of what you're gonna do? Yeah.
If I send some broad a PM telling her that I'd like to speed read the chinese alphabet in tongue-brail on her pearl, my wife should be pissed at me. [Reply]
