The big anti-hijack thread.....
Talk about anything, but if this works than we don't have to keep looking around all the threads to see who is still on tonight, and every night, or even every day! Talk about the chiefs, talk about tomorrow, talk about football, politics or even how to do flooring and the applicable budget. What you're drinking, how hard it is to sleep, etc. Every thing is acceptable in this thread.....
The other really important thing to remember is to communicate.
It seems simple, but it's usually the real root of problems. Since you've lived together for so long, you already know some of this, but make sure you talk, don't ever be afraid to say what you're thinking or feeling, even if you're afraid of the reaction, and always be honest, even brutally so. What usually ends marriages isn't so much one big thing, it's usually a laundry list of little niggling problems that all add up over time. Stuff that people ignore or let slide because it doesn't seem important, or because they're tired, or because they don't want to argue. Stuff that sitting down for 15 minutes when it started might have fixed...
Originally Posted by keg in kc:
The other really important thing to remember is to communicate.
Mostly true.
Either completely do or completely don't. Either lie like Hitler has your phone number or be as honest as the virgin Mary. I've seen it work both ways.
I've never watched a couple sometimes be honest and work though...
Originally Posted by keg in kc:
The other really important thing to remember is to communicate.
It seems simple, but it's usually the real root of problems. Since you've lived together for so long, you already know some of this, but make sure you talk, don't ever be afraid to say what you're thinking or feeling, even if you're afraid of the reaction, and always be honest, even brutally so. What usually ends marriages isn't so much one big thing, it's usually a laundry list of little niggling problems that all add up over time.
Communication is a good thing. It's actually hard for me to communicate my feelings in person (hard to believe, I know). I do though. It's not healthy to let things bottle up. Honesty is usually a good thing, too.
