And we’ll all face it alone.

Even if we’re surrounded by loved ones, we will face it alone.
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Yeah, I wondered about that as well. Perhaps she was so focused on caring for him that she ignored her own problems until it was too late.

One thing is for sure - she wasn't a gold digger. Instead of chucking him in a nursing home she shouldered the burden of his care by herself, and died doing it.
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I am the same situation with my Dad. I refuse to put him in a home tho. I watched my Mom die but better than a home. My granny was in 1 and no way!
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I'm hoping to bring a cat.
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It's a double-edged sword. OTOH, caring for somebody in that condition just gets worse and worse and worse, especially if you're still working, have other responsibilities, and have little in the way of support. But then, nursing homes are horrible. My maternal grandmother, who I was closer to that anybody else in my family, had dementia and died in a nursing home. I lived in another state, had a litany of my own personal issues, and was only able to visit occasionally. The last time I saw her she was so far gone that she didn't know who I was, who she was, or anything else, and just sat there playing with a doll and making baby sounds. It was awful. She was basically already dead, except her body didn't get the memo. Afterward, I sat in my car in the parking lot and cried like a little girl. Never could bring myself to see her again.

Good luck with what you're undertaking and may God grant you strength to see it through to the end. I'll never have to go through anything like that, as my parents are both long gone. As for me, I hope I go the way my dad did; massive heart attack, was dead before he hit the ground. Best way possible.
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What a strange story.
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Egyptian style? I like it.
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What if the cat dies first? Are you going to have someone kill you?
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That's really the end of it. People tell themselves different but all homes are terrible. All homes are full of underpaid employees who don't give a shit with terrible care.

I've worked in prisons and every single one has better care than these homes. I'm not joking. It's disgusting. My wife spent time visiting 3 or 4 different places in the area and even the high dollar home for the well off was shocking to see. I worked in a level 5 prison for a decade and the inhumanity and lack of care in these places made my soul want to vomit. Inmates don't deserve to end their lives like this.

The process of death, for most, robs you of your humanity. For most people it's a far off thing we don't have to think about but it's very real. You slowly lose all the tiny liberties we all take for granted. If you want to really experience gratitude go visit one of these places for 4 hours a month. Regularly. The people there deserve to have someone that does because no one does.
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I am a disabled Vet so I am just lucky to have been able to retire. Kinda sucks tho. Too much time to think. Got to due what is right tho.
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I always thought that having a bunch of people look (stare) at you while you die was kind of creepy. The times I knew a loved one was going to pass away I left and went to the waiting room. It doesn't prove that you loved them any more or less by staying there.
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When my mother went into the hospital for the last time, she slipped into a coma after 4 days or so...the next 5 days someone from our family (dad or siblings) was by her side 24-7. The day she died, it was at a moment when, after my father left, my sister went down the hallway for some coffee. When she returned to the room, mom was gone. I truly think she waited for us all to leave so we didn't see her actually die.

I could bore you all with the story, but it was truly a grace filled 9 days, and I'm grateful we were all able to be there together. I don't think my mom thought it was creepy at all. But everyone has their own perspectives.
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This thread is unintentionally depressing....
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Same with my maternal grandmother. I visited her a couple of times, but that wasn't my grandma laying in that bed. I never went back again.
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Can we get back to Gene FFS...smh
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