Is online flirting, when you know your S.O. disapproves, OK because you "are only flirting online and not in the real world"?
My opinion (surprise, surprise) is that it's not OK, period. It's said to be OK because it's not face-to-face, and online it's just fun and games.
I call bullsh!t. People meet online friends in person all the time. They even meet their future spouses online. The "it's only online" argument is bogus.
I would also imagine that many of those who feel it's OK would be less than eager to have their own S.O.s discover their activity.
If you have a healty, committed relationship and clear personal boundries, basic flirting is ok both on and offline.
My wife has several times said that she caught me flirting (it wasn't even dliberate on my part), and she thought it was "cute".
I would never cheat on my wife, and I wouldn't ever even consider doing anything like Online-"sex". However simple flirting isn't a problem.
I recognize that this isn't true for lots of people, but I think as I said that this has more to do with their lack of clear boundries and a strong commitment to this existing relationship.
Hell, there's plenty of that going on here on the net with the few female posters we have here. I thin Phil (under the watchful eye of Pink) was the biggest flirt on the net. That says a lot about their relationship, IMO. [Reply]
Originally Posted by RedNFeisty:
....Damn it mother****er, get it straight, I only want GO BO. The thought of rubbing baby oil all over his body just gives me chills and makes me rather wet. :-)....
Then all your promises and exhortations were merely a heat of the passion thing?! :-)
Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita:
Keep in mind that "flirting" can cover an awful lot of territory...especially online. I'm not just talking about a giggle or a wink.
Of course, some people feel nothing is wrong until bodily fluids are exchanged.
I'd say there is a line between giggle and wink... and exchanging bodily fluids that's unacceptable. If you are having the net equivilant of "phonesex", I'd say that's over the line. If you are doing something with someone else that you feel necessary to hide from your SO, that's probably a good sign that you shouldn't be doing it. [Reply]